What is a rut, you may ask. A rut is when the relationship is either on autopilot, you do not feel fulfilled or maybe there is always conflict between the parties. The rut can be caused by numerous things, it could be due to differing goals; maybe you are growing in different directions and lack of communication.

Last year it got to a point where the bad was beginning to outweigh the good. I had to let it go, I had to let her go.

It kills me that anytime we argue; he acts as if he is in shock about what’s going on. Like bruh, you did something that rubbed me the wrong way and we are about to deal with it, lol. Where is the confusion?

Trust is such a hard thing to build because when it’s lost some may say that it is lost forever. I don’t fully agree with that because you can gain some sort of trust back. But will it be as strong as it was before the break? Maybe, maybe not.

I think it’s when I actually got married to my husband that I realized forever is a long damn time. When you are dating and you see your friends and family getting married, you see how happy they are, and you yearn for that vision of happiness not knowing that it takes so much work.